Settling down, getting married, having kids, and all other aspects of accomplishing a family life begin with 2 essential steps for every Lebanese guy: the first is finding the right person and the second is getting the father’s approval.
You might have to convince other members of your significant other’s family that you’re a good guy with good intentions, but your number one priority is your future father-in-law because only he has the keys to your happy ending (or beginning).
The first meeting between you and your sweetheart’s father is a tricky one. You’ll be judged for every inconvenience, both in the way you behave as well as the way you present yourself. Be true to who you are, but in the best version possible.
Remember, he can smell fear! And once he does, he’ll come at you with every question he’s got. If you’re under pressure, you won’t be able to make up for the fact that you’re not an architect nor a surgeon.
If it’s possible and suitable to execute it on the spot, please do. Whether you help with the cooking or put up a puppet show for the kids, it’ll certainly make a good impression. If that isn’t possible, mentioning your strong points works just fine.
Finally, the visit is over! You followed all the steps and perfected them one by one. Now you have to wait for the call back. If the father-in-law is satisfied, you’ll get another invitation. This is his decision, so don’t unexpectedly show up at the door the next evening.
At the end of the day, all a father really wants is for his daughter to be happy. If he knows that she’ll be happy with you, you’ll definitely be approved! Then you can tell your mother to go ahead and start with the Zalaghit (but only if she approves of the bride).
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